What a Girl Wants

I was on my way to school one morning and on the radio was a woman who was telling her story about what was a big moment in her life. They were engaged and planning to get married in January. His Mom got injured and would be unable to travel and attend the wedding so they decided to postpone until May. She told the radio host that they had been saving themselves for marriage. He had been married before and had a child in that marriage but that she had never had sex.  She called the radio station to tell them that they had intended to wait until marriage to have sex but that due to the delay they were going to have sex now. The radio staff members initially said that it was cute that they had decided to wait. When they began discussing the matter of to wait or not, the bride-to-be told them that she felt it was unfair to expect her husband to wait another few months and she decided the following weekend they would get a hotel room. Some others may find their story cute and romantic but I felt like it reveals an interesting undertone of a woman's psyche. 

Some women feel indebted.

Its discouraging to think that this lady felt an obligation to satisfy her significant other. The boy was not on the phone so all i have is what the lady said but by the sound of it, she felt as if shed owed him something simply because he had agreed to date/marry her. And that if she didn't acquiesce then he had a right to be angry/upset. I can't imagine anything further from the truth. No man is simply entitled to a woman, and no woman is simply indebted to a man. A man needs to be deserving of a woman. I don't want to get specific into what that entails currently, but he needs to earn the affection and more importantly the respect of a woman before a relationship can go anywhere. At the end of the day no woman should feel like they owe a man anyway, every expression of affection should be earned never given out of obligation.

My other observation...

Some women have low expectations.

After hearing the lady's story about how they were waiting, the female host let out an "Awwww" and deemed the boy a "keeper." I know it was an off-the-cuff comment but I think there was some significance behind this statement. That's all a guy needs these days, to simply tolerate not having  sex until marriage. That seems like an extremely low bar to decide whether he is a "keeper" or not. (Side Note: I feel an air of responsibility for the single women in my life.) My biggest fear for them and any woman really is that they would settle for a "Good Guy" and not hold out until they get what they truly deserve.